Sweet Jesus, have I been blogging a lot. Today's blog will be a bit more personal. You will be able to get into my head a little more then what I typically share. I know I tend to share more of what I am doing. Rather then what I am thinking. I am sure most people cannot handle what I think. Or maybe they can, because for all we know my head could be hallow. ;-)
Today's subject struck me because I've always felt in someways in the industry I work in people want to put a label on one. Such as, she is only a glamour model, or fetish model, or pro domme, or fine art nude model. But I've never really fit into anyone circle. I tend to do work in many genres. I enjoy not limiting myself. I always found it funny when I would go to a fetish shoot, there I would be called a glamour model. If I went to a glamour shoot they would call me a fetish model. If I went to a fine art shoot they would call me a glamour model. If I did an adult shoot, I would be labeled as a glamour model who does fetish. I have never been called one label by anyone person. People have always seemed to label me something different then reality. Why label me as anything? I am not really someone who can be labeled since, I enjoy all the genres for all different reasons. I am the kind of person who does what I enjoy. Yes, it does pay the bills. But I feel I should enjoy what pays the bills as well.
I also find this strange labeling with the fetish community. Often I will book shoots and a photographer or producer will be worried about booking me because I am also a pro domme. Since, I am a pro domme that means I am not a "true" submissive. Why should one have to be a "true" submissive. What the hell is a true submissive anyways? It's how they define it. Each person seems to have their own definition for what makes a submissive or a domme. But no one really agrees on what it is. Some think a submissive gives totally control. But no one can ever give total control to anyone. Not physically possible. A person no matter what will remain in power of some aspect of them self. Weather it be their mind or digestive track. No, one can ever be in compete control of any other. So, I almost think labeling is stupid and foolish.
I also, on the other hand will lose sessions because a few guys worry about me not being truly dominate because they saw me in bondage somewhere. As for that, I cannot completely control you either. If you are a a bottom to me, I have exceptions like any top. But I also respect you as a human. I respect all living things on some level. You always have the power to say, no. I do not think a human can be completely devoted and submit to me. It just isn't possible. I notice most sub's brat anyways, to play with the amount of power they have. It show they still have power. Most dominates do not want complete control either. They just want something to toy with.
These people feel I have to pick one or the other. Honestly, I enjoy both roles. I actually learned to be a proper dominate from doing work as a submissive. I never do anything to another person that I haven't tried or experienced myself. I feel I must not only know the tools I am using, but also how they feel. I cannot get these experiences from just being purely dominate or submissive. I have to be fluid. I cannot be labeled and I cannot be put in a box. I also feel confused on sites like Fetlife. Where I book both domme sessions and shoots. For the shoots they want submissive and for the sessions they want domme. I get flack from both sides. It annoys me. Let me be. Stop putting me in your boxes.
I honestly, like topping for sessions and can be a top or bottom for shoots. I really do learn more from shoots then anywhere else. I tend to be introduced to things I never knew on shots. If I just pick one label. I never change, grow, and evolve. I am not about to stay stagnate when it comes to this. That is just no fun. Grow is fun. You learn more about yourself.
As for the gay straight thing. That has always got to me as well. It is kind of nice that people who do not base feelings on gender actually get recognized as bisexual. But that is still a box and still a label. I always view gender as not important. It's the person who is. I noticed more people are open about this. However, the gay community still does seem to have the same issues as the fetish community. You have to be one or the other. You cannot be both. But I think that is limiting and judgmental. It's shallow to think you can only be interested in a person because they have the right body part. For me it doesn't work that way. I've fancied gals in my day. I have equality fancied boys too. I oddly enough find the male-female relationships end up being long term. Where the female-female never does. Not sure why? Has nothing to with not being pleasing. I guess it has more to do with the fact, two women together end up driving each other crazy. I know for me, that has been the case. It's never been nasty either. I've always find my parting with a gal to me more peaceful then my parting with a man. Weird isn't it?
Labels. How I dislike them. They are limiting. They place you in a box and you become attached to one role. One role only. People overtime identify with that role. I am a female fetish model who is a domme that is also gay. Stop with that non-sense. If you claim to know who you are for sure, then I am fine with it. But just because you are stuck in a role, stop expecting others to be. That's not who they are. You are judging them and expecting them to place limits on them self. Sometimes limits aren't for everyone. Some times others need they experiences to grow. Just because you see a cute girl at a fetish event, do not expect her to be the little rope bunny. Not every attractive women is. Also, do not expect every dominate woman to be a big burly woman. One of the smallest dominate women I know is Mina Meow! She started off as a submissive too. She is one hell of a dominate women too! Stop with this old guard thinking people. It's not 1970!
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